No, it’s not like being Raven Simone from That’s So Raven.
At least not for me.
When I first discovered I was a psychic medium, I was terrified. I wasn’t sure if anybody would believe me, and I wasn’t sure if I was schizophrenic or bipolar. I would always hear things, hear people (not the living), and they would tell me things about people or themselves.
I was terrified. I wasn’t sure if anybody would believe me, and I wasn’t sure if I was schizophrenic or bipolar.
I was always good at reading people’s energies, naturally talented with astrology and tarot, and seeing into a person’s soul; but the voices – they were too scary for me, so I ignored most of it for a very long time. When I was a young teen, I told my friend. She was polite, but she thought I was crazy, lol. So I just shut up about it.
I suffered from a lot of anxiety, but it wasn’t until my soul sister Kelly Lightworker came into my life, that I discovered why so many strange things always happened to me.
The anxiety wasn’t because of a mental health issue (trust me I tried everything to cure it), but because I wasn’t fulfilling my higher calling. Now that I’m awakened, my anxiety is completely cured. Sounds strange, right? It still is.
Knowing the Difference Between Lesser Spirits and Higher Spirits
Earthbound and even higher spirits have a way of wanting to speak with you.
Earthbound Spirits (deceased humans)
What I’ve discovered is that earthbound spirits will share their emotions with you: how they died, how they lived, and what they’re feeling right now. If they have enough energy, they’ll get really chatty – or at the most, they’ll start to move things. If you’re clairvoyant, they’ll appear in front of you.
Higher Spirits (Angels and Spirit Guides)
When higher spirits want to talk to you, it’s more loving and the energy they’ll share with you is always encouraging, enlightening, and uplifting. They want you to do good in life, to create good in others, and always provide the highest good, deliver the highest message from God and to deliver more good than harm.
And if you’re chosen, you’re chosen. No going back once you accept it.
Kelly told me that she knew people who chose not to fulfill their calling, and for it their lives were unhappy. It’s just bad karma all around – I am choosing not to go through anymore life challenges.
To be accepted for psychic mediumship was the biggest challenge for me, and if you’re reading this then it’s probably a big challenge for you as well.
So here’s what I did to overcome and accept myself.
Step One: Overcome the fear of death
Nobody wants to think of death or the afterlife – nobody. But that’s the part you have to get over.
Death and paranormal activities used to terrify me. I had to force myself to get over my fears. So I did a lot of research and once I opened up to it, I started to get haunted by spirits. Yes, it’s scary but it’s very true.
Nobody wants to think of death or the afterlife – nobody.
They do make their presence known and some of them will do things to get your attention such as: standing really close to you, moving things, invading your readings, and talking your ear off.
And when I say they wouldn’t leave me alone, I mean they WOULD NOT LEAVE. They’ve been waiting for years for me to start listening. I couldn’t sleep for WEEKS until I started to create stronger boundaries and started to pray and meditate.
I eventually told myself that being scared is weakening my soul and depleting my energy, so it was time to take control over it. And I did that.
You can do it too. You just have to go through the first phases of being scared, then gaining control over it.
I eventually told myself that being scared is weakening my soul and depleting my energy, so it was time to take control...
Step Two: Figure out your strengths
I figured out what I was really good at – as in, which category of psychic mediumship do I belong in and what can I do to strengthen it?
There are different types of psychic mediums, they are often referred to as “clairs”. For most, it’s a combination of different clairs.
For example, I’m clairaudient and clairsentient. Meaning, I can hear and feel spirits around me. I can’t see them.
Clairvoyance: Clear Seeing
The gift to see spirits. Whether it be physically or mentally, people with this gift can see or live through the visions of spirits.
Clairaudience: Clear Hearing
It’s the gift to hear spirits and the messages they’re trying to deliver.
Clairsentience: Clear Feeling
This is the gift to feel spirits and energies around you.
Claircognizance: Clear Thinking
This is the gift to just know without seeing the direct result or physical proof.
Utilize any tools or other strengths to heighten your gifts.
For me, it was easier because I was already educated and skilled in astrology and tarot before I accepted my psychic mediumship.
Now, whenever I get interrupted, I’ll pause to write what I hear. It makes it easier for the Querant (the seeker – the one getting the reading) to know what is being told to me, lol.
Oh, also make sure you’re listening to the right spirits. For me, I only listen to higher spirits (Archangels, angels, and spirit guides – no earthbound). Whatever tools you may or may not use, always go with your intuition - never against it.
...always go with your intuition - never against it.
Step Three: Practice and Perfection
Practice makes perfect, yes? No.
It’s always good to educate yourself, but there will be a time where you throw it all away and follow your intuition. We can fall into the habit of being too technical, but all we have to do is listen to the higher spirits. I was very guilty of this.
...there will be a time where you throw it all away and follow your intuition.
I have a Virgo Moon, so I’m very analytical and detailed. I wanted to get it all right, but I soon started to feel that it was ruining readings for me. I let go of this bad habit: perfection.
I stopped over-analyzing and second guessing myself. It was time to just remember everything I have experienced, everything I’ve learned and start using them as naturally as breathing.
I let go of this bad habit: perfection.
That may be hard to understand, but I started to just go with the flow of life and go with the flow of the energies. Whichever way they went, I went. And whenever they told me something, I wrote it.
I stopped second guessing what was being said, and so far, they haven’t been wrong. Which leads me to the next part.
Step Four: Trust Your Angels and Spirit Guides
Get to know your angels and spirit guides. Don’t know who they are? They are part of you and will make themselves known. I like to call on higher spirits for my readings: Archangels.
Get familiar with them, here are the ones that I call for every reading:
Archangel Michael: He who is like God
He grants safety, protection, structure, logic and strength.
I always pray that he sits on my right side and to protect me from any lesser beings, spirits, or any negative energies. I ask he lend his confidence and strength, that he protect my home and protect my heart.
Archangel Gabriel: The Strength of God
She is the messenger of God – the communication link between God and Man.
I always pray that she come and sits on my left side, to help me deliver prayers to God and to deliver God’s messages to me, so that I can provide the highest good and deliver the highest messages from God to the seeker.
Archangel Haniel: The Grace of God
She provides psychic gifts, intuition, feminine energy and guidance for inner-self.
I pray she sits to the upper left side of me. To look over and watch over me, to tutor me in my psychic abilities, and to strengthen my intuition and spirituality as gifted by God.
Archangel Raphael: God Heals
He is the healing angel in relation to love and health.
I always pray that he sits to the upper right side of me. I always pray that he shows me how to love and have compassion for myself as well as the seeker. To help heal the worries of the seeker and to provide me energy and stamina to continue fulfilling my duties.
Now, there are way more angels out there but these are the ones that I call on. Angels will come to you and help you where you need help, at least in my experience.
Step Five: Create those BOUNDARIES
I can’t stress this part enough. It was the part that I struggled with the most. I didn’t know how to tell them no and I was too scared to face them (the spirits).
Kelly would always tell me, “You’re like the new club in town, everyone wants to come.” And she was right. She also said, “Treat them like the living. If they’re coming into your home… not cool, create boundaries.”
Kelly would always tell me, “You’re like the new club in town, everyone wants to come.”
During this time, I had to research how to create boundaries. I was very blessed that Kelly helped me through this, but I had to ween myself off her and learn on my own.
This is what I did/do to create boundaries:
It's not difficult to create boundaries, but it will take time, patience and a lot of trust.
Praying and meditation will be your best friends.
I pray A LOT. Meditation will help you clear any energies (practice daily and frequently throughout the day – about 5 to 10 minutes to calm your soul down).
Call on your angels, spirit guides, and Archangel Michael.
They’re your bodyguards and if you ask them to help protect you, they will.
Make sure that you own your place.
If you aren’t the only one living there then you’ll have to ask everyone who owns it to help you kick them out. (If you don’t have believers in your home, then this can be tough).
Face your fears.
They can’t do anything to hurt you or kill you. They’ll just find ways to talk to you. Let them know they’re not allowed to speak to you during certain times or even at all. I always make sure they don’t speak directly to me, but that they speak to the angels around me.
Envision your walls turning into strong barriers.
At first, I placed up velvet ropes because I was too weak. I let them know they couldn’t pass it, and I could start to feel them waiting behind them.
As soon as that worked, I started envisioning golden walls and physically kicking them all out. This worked.
Then when I got my home, I started to envision that my entire property was made of gold, of which they were never to enter – they never do unless invited.
Write all your boundaries down.
I had to do this a few times because they kept invading my space and they were driving me insane. I even drew a picture of it, lol.
I’ve learned that once you stop being afraid, they’ll stop coming around. I mean, they still come sometimes.
But when this happen and you’re used to it, you can just tell them to leave and they will. Just treat them politely and respectfully. Then…
...once you stop being afraid, they’ll stop coming around.
Step Six: Sage, Incense and Clearing
I am not a fan of sage because the smell is too strong, and there is nothing wrong with that. I did it once to clear out all the old and negative energies in my house, and it worked. But it’s all about intent and seeing or feeling the energy going away.
...it’s all about intent and seeing or feeling the energy going away.
Now, I use incense to clear away any negative energies, and I am using them frequently (before and after a reading). I find that seeing the energy leaving helps.
Because I’m not clairvoyant, I have to work even harder at this. I have to walk around my house and push away any negative energies that linger.
I also have a space in my house where I do my readings, so I close all the doors and trap it in there. Then sage the room frequently.
If you’re struggling with your psychic mediumship, you are not alone. It’s terrifying at first, but once you start to accept that you’ve been chosen by God then all your fears start to dissipate. Acceptance will be the hardest part of your journey.
Acceptance will be the hardest part of your journey.
For me, I’ve finally accepted my destiny. I’m a lot more calm, relaxed, and I can’t wait to help as many souls as possible in this lifetime.